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“If You Don’t Leave Now, You’ll Never Become a Man” — Why Parents Must Let Their Grown Children Grow

There are few issues more emotionally complicated than family. We love our children fiercely. As parents, our instincts tell us to protect, to comfort, to make life easier where we can. But sometimes… love looks like letting go.

This blog is not going to sit well with everyone. It may even challenge or offend people I care deeply for. That’s okay. Sometimes truth stings before it heals.

At the heart of this message is a hard truth I believe down to my core: adult children should not live with their parents—unless there is a true emergency, a health crisis, or a major life transition requiring temporary support. And even then, it must be temporary.

We justify these arrangements as “smart financial planning” or “helping them get on their feet.” But in truth, we may be doing more harm than good. We’re shielding them from the very thing that could shape their character and future: struggle.

The story of the Mexican Fisherman

If you have never read the story of the Mexican Fisherman or if has been a while since you have, please take a minute and reacquaint yourself with it. There are many life as well as leadership lessons hidden within this parable. For me it highlights the importance of asking “why” and “then what” type of questions and to regularly evaluate the end goal of what your are working toward, you may be surprised to find you already have it.